Seeking • Finding • Healing
The Complete Guide to Self-Directed Inner Family Healing
If you experience a yearning to make peace with your history and a desire to create a compassionate and loving relationship with all of your inner ages, this book will gently lead you along a path of inner healing with rewards beyond imagination or expectations!
Using various writing exercises, you will tap into the wisdom, strengths and clarity you need to become the loving parental support and guide all your inner selves have yearned for and deserve.
Following word-for-word visualizations, you are introduced to an inner spiritual team that includes the support of future selves. Then, by utilizing Becky’s style of meditation, this self-directed, creative path to healing honors your inner timing and gently leads you to healing, where you will experience peace, self-love and freedom as a strong inner family.
For further inspiration and encouragement, throughout the book the author shares her path of inner family healing spanning over forty years through personal visualization and stories of her ongoing healing. In addition, you’ll be provided with various healing stories of others who the author has guided along this path.
Seeking… Finding… Healing… is a step-by-step, easy to follow guide to healing historical wounds or traumas.
My book begins by guiding the reader in ways to strengthen the Self of today.
Exercises are designed to help the reader acquire a healthy Foundation, mentality, emotionally and spiritually; all the necessary elements to begin the inner journey. By connecting to the various aspects presented, our Foundation is solidified to begin our inner healing.
Our inner family consists of younger selves that need healing and healthy parenting. And to assist us on the healing path, the concept of future selves is introduced. By connecting to that inner aspect, future selves can bring wisdom and compassion, and offer the reader a powerful resource.
Additionally, the reader is invited to design a connection to a trusting relationship with the Universe that might include Guardian Angels and/or Spirit Guides and a personal Higher Power as additional aspects of inner wisdom; therefore creating the “village” that is needed to raise/healing the younger selves.
There are word-for-word visualizations shared, and I use my personal path to my own inner family healing that began in 1976. Most chapters include comments from clients through the years that have benefited from utilizing this inner family healing model.
If you are a Seeker looking for a coach to help you facilitate this valuable, healing tool of Inner Family work, I will guide you along my Inner Family Healing Model path, creating the necessary Foundation elements and share visualization outlines to connect with your inner family… your own inner world… your inner healing.
Praise for the Book
Seeking…Finding…Healing by Becky Lu Jackson is an informative nonfiction book focused on healing and overcoming past trauma. Jackson suffered from drug and alcohol addictions and an eating addiction. She examined her life and determined that trauma from her past was causing destructive behavior and fueling her unhealthy addictions. She decided that she needed to focus on these earlier traumas and find a way to resolve the emotions that continued to have a negative impact on her life. She developed a method of connecting with her younger selves and accessing the cause of the past pain to overcome it. She began working on an inner family healing model. By focusing on her younger selves at different ages in her past, she could identify the cause of the pain she was feeling at the time. Through the visualization process, she could interact with her younger selves and determine how to heal the pain or trauma. Jackson asks readers to be open to the concept of an inner family and contact with our younger selves through meditation. She provides a step-by-step process to guide readers in creating their inner family. She encourages readers to create a plan to identify and hopefully resolve important aspects of our lives through visualization. Once the inner family is established, it can be used as a foundation for healthy living in the future. Jackson encourages adding spiritual guides to your inner family. They provide guidance in resolving past trauma and future decisions. I found this book to be enlightening. The concept of an inner family is new to me. Examining your past trauma seems like a healthy way to address current negative impacts. For example, if something traumatic happened to you when you were ten, Jackson encourages you to visualize a discussion with your ten-year-old self. By revisiting the incident and the feelings you experienced at that time, you can try to move past it. I found this concept fascinating. I began thinking of areas in my life that I am unhappy with and focusing on when I began to feel that way. I think this book will be beneficial to readers who are unhappy with any aspect of their lives. The author’s personal stories were my favorite parts of this book. Jackson described struggling with several different issues in her past. She explained her experiences honestly to readers. Readers will be able to relate to many of the issues. Divorce, death, and addiction are just some of the topics she addressed. It is fascinating to read how she approached such difficult topics with her inner family. I also like that she provided a script for meditation and visualization to help readers begin the process of healing. Her advice is compassionate and based on her own experiences. There was nothing I disliked about this book. I recommend this book to readers who are open to this type of visualization and meditation. There is a focus on spiritualism and God, so these topics should appeal to potential readers. There were less than ten errors in this book, so I believe it was professionally edited. I give this book a rating of four out of four stars. It is a unique approach to healing past trauma and living a healthy life.
I have used Becky’s Inner Family Model both personally and with clients for many years, often with profound results. Personally, the connection with my own inner family, both younger and older selves, has allowed deep healing. The work allows me to be more present and more grounded in my life and to make choices from an adult place rather than being ‘hijacked’ by unacknowledged or unheard younger selves. I have seen clients experience the same kind of deep healing and growth from this work. No matter how wonderful our childhoods might have been, doing Becky’s Inner Family work invites a deeper connection with ourselves and our soul.
My friend, colleague, and mentor, Becky L. Jackson, continues to contribute soles to the ground effective self-help soul healing. Her newest book, Seeking, Finding, Healing, The Complete Guide to Self- Directed Inner Family Healing, provides the reader with an easy to understand, loving, thorough, and compassionate method for deep healing that guides anyone through suffering the consequences of childhood trauma. Becky humbly shares her own story and the stories of others as inspiration to use these well-constructed therapeutic strategies. I also have benefitted tremendously through Becky’s guidance. Thirty years ago, I was pregnant with my only child and joined one of Becky’s living abstinent and body image groups to help me embrace a woman’s greatest gift. I spent 3 years in her groups, learning tools of healing, developing a network of support, and digging deep into my own psyche. I learned how to let go of unhealthy coping mechanisms and began to live a more joyful life and to feel more confident as a parent and a therapist. Thirty years later I continue to refer my therapy clients to Becky's literature, her workshops, and her personal counseling. I am so moved by this simple-to-follow book. I am reminded of the deep work that I courageously fathomed and the mental and physical freedom that comes by doing this step by step work. Seeking... Finding... Healing... will uproot that critical inner voice and replace it with a loving and affirming self-belief that will help you accomplish your personal goals. This is a must read; and allow your imagination to unfold an inner loving family of healing.
Thanks for allowing me to read your manuscript. I loved what you wrote about Jeff. I can't imagine what that must be like.
You are definitely one of the strongest and wisest women I know and I hope God will continue to give you the strength and wisdom to move forward and share your light with so many other people.
I’ve watched you walk through life’s joys, pain and sorrows with such grace and dignity; you have been a role model and an inspiration for me.
As your friend and a clinician in private practice, I have valued your support and guidance over the last thirty years. You have my respect and admiration for your pioneering work with others.
This book reflects your knowledge, insight and wisdom. I hope many others take up the tools of growth and healing you offer.
I would highly recommend reading - Seeking . . . Finding . . . Healing . . . to anyone who desires motivation and information to a Complete Guide to a Self-Directed Inner Family Healing.
The author, Becky L. Jackson provides the reader with an easy to understand, loving, thorough, and compassionate method for a deep healing.
The book lays a roadmap that guides anyone suffering the consequences of a childhood or an adult trauma to find peace and healing, Becky humbly shares her own story of her inner healing process and all her inner selves as well as many dark and light healing experiences, also included the stories of others, all as an inspiration to use those well-constructed therapeutic strategies for a long-lasting healing and inner loving family.
If you are ready for true transformation and ready to invest in yourself for greater levels of life, then this is the book for you. This book contains a brilliant manual for changing from the inside out. It gives you the foundation and ultimately the “how to” framework that sets you up for an inward journey of transformation. In this book, Ms. Jackson displays vulnerability by sharing her personal journey using her strategy of inner family healing. This is not your average philosophical self-help book, this book gives you practical tools and a step by step process to be able to heal the traumas of your inner family and overcome limiting emotions that have kept you chained to the patterns of your past. This inward journey is especially beneficial because you are not in it alone, rather you get to tackle this quest with an inner team. This book is about healing your past selves and becoming the best version of your future selves. It is about knowing that, no matter what, you are never alone. Finally, it is about strengthening your relationship with yourself and that is the most important relationship we will ever have. I am so ecstatically grateful and beyond proud to call the author of this treasure my grandma.
Reading Seeking…Finding…Healing… has been absolutely transformational for me. I've struggled with overcoming trauma and negative behavior patterns my whole life. When you're constantly being beaten down, by life and by your own actions, you can stay stuck or you can take action to heal, and that's what this book provides a framework to do. Whenever I thought about taking any kind of risk, there was always a voice in my head talking me out of it. After reading this book, I realized the voice was my twelve-year-old self; she was nervous and scared and had been badly betrayed by her family, and she didn't want to try anything new again. I never would have realized who she was or how awful she felt without following Becky's ingenious guidance. When I allowed her to speak, we were able to overcome her barriers and I was able to step fully into my role as the leader of my younger selves, rather than letting them lead me. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to find true resolve and healing.